Body Confidence & Body Positivity
Happy Sunday! This is a very special post for me because of what it represents. It’s my blog’s birthday today, as you probably guessed by the title, and I also wanted to bring body confidence to the forefront of this post. You might remember a post I wrote a while back on learning to love yourself, as self love is so important in life for happiness and contentment, but I want to put a focus on body positivity and all the shaming that goes on. I know women get a lot of stick, but men do as well as I’ve seen that often. I’ve always been for equality for both genders, which even means sticking up for guys when women are being rude, and vice versa, no favouritism, however I have noticed lately how unfair it seems to be in this industry (or the celeb world) with a stark difference between men and women and what they’re allowed to do.
Why is it ok for a guy to post in underwear or topless, but it’s not ok for a woman to post in lingerie or slightly sexy, while being mostly covered? Where did the rule come from that women had to be ashamed of their bodies and hide them from head to toe, and if they didn’t, they were a slut? Why are magazines filled with nasty comments mocking women for gaining weight, being too thin, having cellulite, muffin top etc.? It’s so wrong. The way the world is now should be about building people up with confidence, not knocking them down and making them ashamed of what they look like. I know how much this affects people because I was one of them when I was younger.
I used to hate my body, I can read back on old journal entries from my school days and see how deluded I was. I would call myself the worst names, try and starve myself, do as much exercise as possible, at one point I got down to a size 24 in jeans and it was not good for my natural body shape. I would compare myself to magazines, people on the TV, and just constantly be unhappy, which I know so many people still do. I’ve always had hang ups about my skin, I’ve got scars and stretch marks (very common in EDS), my knees are really saggy, as are my elbows, my joints are weird, I’ve got long toes, I get muffin top, I bloat like nobody’s business… but I am me and I am proud of who I am now. If anything, I like being more unique and people need to accept that.
Everyone should be body confident. We only get one body to last us on the earth, so I don’t understand why we’re made to feel ashamed of it. Our bodies are amazing, they’re our vehicles of life, they produce life, they let us live and exist, they work in the most complex of ways, they’re truly amazing miracle vessels that shouldn’t be hated or disrespected. I don’t like the fact that people are having opinions on others and telling them they’re not allowed to show their skin. In a world that we live in now where things are becoming more and more acceptable, why is it still ok to slut shame and make judgements and be rude to someone just because they have body confidence? Or just because they decided to wear something lacy or a bodysuit? I get you’re allowed opinions, but you cannot tell someone what they can and can’t do, especially when their body is their own.
This is something that’s been irritating me lately, as you know from my previous post. My blog is 9 years old now, I’ve been sharing my photos since 2010 and I started doing lingerie shoots and collaborations in around 2013, and have done since, so it’s nothing new, it’s not for views, it’s not to gain followers. Lately I’ve started to own the fact that I am 30, I’m mature enough to appreciate my life and my body, respect it and love it, and feel proud of it and everything I have achieved with a disability, so I’ve started to wear more lace tops, bodysuits (which are trending here in the UK) and I love that. Yet for some reason, some others can’t see beyond the fact that I’m wearing lace and are criticizing it. Of course I understand there’s always haters and trolls, negative people who want to put you down to feel better, but there’s also uneducated people who are just following suit as they think it’s the right thing to do. So the point of this post is to say lets celebrate our bodies, lets be proud of our achievements, lets embrace equality for everyone and not be afraid or ashamed. I’m getting too old for this nonsense.
With that in mind, I thought this was the perfect opportunity to share with you this gorgeous red lingerie that I got from Amazon. I wouldn’t have thought it was from them if I had seen it elsewhere, and in fact I didn’t even know they had their own private label lingerie brand called Iris Lilly, but they do! So when Amazon wanted to partner with me and let me choose something from their collections, I was instantly drawn to how beautiful these two pieces are. And to be more body confident, I’ve not edited myself in any way other than enhanced the light/colours to sharpen the image. I’m keeping it real. I do pretty much all the time anyway, but this one seemed very apt to not even remove any marks if they were there, so I’ve kept my muffin tops and everything else. I am who I am. To quote The Greatest Showman: This is me! For those of you interested in this set, the bra runs true to size for UK sizing, so I took a 34DD, which is a 34D in the US, and I took a medium in the knickers. They’re incredibly affordable and it’s such a lovely set! Buy the bra here and the knickers here.
So, now that I’ve got that all off of my chest (almost literally, ha ha) what’s your take on body confidence? Or do you still think women should be made to cover up? And of course, thank you so much to all of you who have been here with me for the long journey! If you’ve followed me since 2010, or around about then, I would love to hear from you! I know most of you don’t comment and only read, but it would make my day if I could hear from you and say hi, to thank you! So just drop a small comment, it would make my day! I love you all! Have a wonderful Sunday and enjoy the week ahead. Lorna xx.